Deep in debt

I don’t understand how we got to this point

HI everyone, new here to the blog – so far so good. I am a wife, mother of 2, and working full time. Christmas just passed, and took quite a chunk of the finances, and a bunch of rainy day money had to also be spent on unforeseen expenses, like car repairs, etc. Not to mention the kid’s baptism and birthday parties. I was wondering if others also experience the husband asking them “I don’t understand how we got to this point, why the money isn’t stretching, and why we are such in the hole. I just don’t see where the money goes.”

I was wondering how other ladies/men handle this situation when your spouse says this.

I don’t know how else to explain that there is mortgage, car, utilities, water, garbage, old credit card debt from the past, everyday essentials, daycare, other kid’s birthday parties, etc. How do you explain it – it’s all in front of you? I am tempted to just let him handle all of the bills from this point on.

Is that a smart move? btw, should i remind him of the $3000 42″ widescreen that’s on finance, or the long lunches he goes to with friends, or the fantasy football money he spends, or all the toys that he purchases for our girls? I just don’t know!